"Your body is the first thing any child of man ever wanted. Therefore dispose yourself to be loved, to be wanted, to be available. Be there for them with a vengeance. Be a gracious, bending woman. Incline your ear, your heart, your hands to them.... To be a Mother is to be the sacrament - the effective symbol - of place. Mothers do not make homes, they are our home." from Bed and Board, Robert Farrar Capon

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Another Quote

"Christian childrearing is a pastoral pursuit, not an organizational challenge....

The more children you have, the more you need to be pastorally minded.  Look to each of 
their souls and their needs.  If you are focused on upkeep of the house and the schedule, 
as long as your child is not interrupting you, you don't worry about it. 
If you are being a parent who is pastorally minded, you will stop whatever it is 
you are doing to go see how your daughter is up in her bedroom....

Be a pastor to your children.  Study them.  Seek them out.  
Sacrifice the thing you were doing to work through minor emotional issues....

[W]hile your children are little, cultivate an attitude of sacrifice.  
Sacrifice your peace for their fun, your clean kitchen floor for their help cracking eggs, 
your quiet moment for their long retelling of a dream that a friend of theirs allegedly had.  
Prioritize your children far and away above the other work you need to get done.
They are the only part of the work that really matters."

from Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches
by Rachel Jankovic, pgs. 50, 51

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Quote for the Day: "The 20 Minute Rule"

I tried this method the other day and it actually helped me get calmly through an episode involving three or four simultaneous "catastrophes" in my kitchen which could have easily sent me into an emotionally packed reactive outburst, but, this time it didn't. 

It's from Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches, by Rachel Jankovic -

"In that early and intense phase with the twins, I developed the 20 minute rule. 
If things started seeming really out-of-control, I would look at the clock and note the time. 
Then I would tell myself that in 20 minutes this would be over.

If I just kept my head down and did the work, 20 minutes was all I needed. 
And actually, it was true. 20 minutes is enough time (if you are moving quickly and not moping) 
to change three diapers and one complete outfit, spank one disobeyer, tuck two people into naps,
 and sit down to nurse the other two. The storm would have passed in 20 minutes if I was 
cheerfully getting things done. But that moment when you first discovered the blowout, and then 
the two-year-old hit the one-year-old (who is now having a naptime meltdown with a dirty diaper),
 and both of the babies were mad because we were in the car when they decided it was lunchtime, 
and now, thirty minutes later, you still haven't nursed them, but first you've got to change 
the whole outfit and maybe can't find the clothes...     well, that moment.  
What was it? A moment.  It passes.  But when it passes, you will be very 
glad if all you did was work right through it.  No self pity, no tears, no getting worked into a dither.

Look at the clock, look at the work you must do, and bear down. 
That super intensity will almost always be over in twenty minutes."

John Philip Falter
Mother’s Little Helpers (1953)

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Potty Training Success or Not

My three year old isn't potty trained yet.   It must be because I haven't bought her this!

"Digital 2-in-1 iPotty with Activity Seat for iPad"

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Beware of the Back Door Tactic

My sister-in-law found *this article* and I like how it exposes the subtlety of one tactic Satan uses aiming to separate and destroy relationships within the church.

Here's an excerpt -

"This is how it works! Satan gets another Christian to sin against us in deed or word. 
It pleases Satan if a person with spiritual significance or authority, such as a parent, pastor, 
spouse or leader in the Church sins against us. Their spiritual status, their office, magnifies 
their offense and intensifies the damage that it does. 
This is a kind of ritual abuse, the misuse of holy things against us.

After the offense has occurred, Satan gets us to brood over it, like a stuck track or a video loop, repeatedly and obsessively in our minds, with every greater emphasis on the gravity and 
injustice of it. As we process the offense and its effect on us, Satan gradually distorts our remembrance and our assessment of it. He uses this offense to encourage us to bring our mental accusations against the offender in the court of our minds. There he presides over the proceedings as we hold a secret trial in which we both prosecute and pass judgment on the wrongdoer...."

Has anyone else out there had Satan try to get in their "back door" with this method?
Well I have, and it is every bit as damaging and corrosive as the article points out. Exposing these tactics of our Enemy makes them lose their power as we become aware of their source, their goal, and the damage they are causing. We are in a spiritual war, we mothers at home.  Any evil thinking we allow in our own minds against any member of the body of Christ will be picked up by our children and will affect the state of the church, for we are all members of the church, one Body, present and future, and we always need to hear and speak words of conviction that help keep us clean, over and over.