"Your body is the first thing any child of man ever wanted. Therefore dispose yourself to be loved, to be wanted, to be available. Be there for them with a vengeance. Be a gracious, bending woman. Incline your ear, your heart, your hands to them.... To be a Mother is to be the sacrament - the effective symbol - of place. Mothers do not make homes, they are our home." from Bed and Board, Robert Farrar Capon

Friday, October 25, 2013

More Encouragement for "Just" Mothers

A week after Jane put up the quote from the "Just a Mother" article, I happened upon another blog post called "The Funny Little Thing About Women's Choice," in which Kelly Crawford, from a Christian perspective, writes  - 

"The reality that few of us are willing to admit is that families need mothers and wives devoted full time to them.....            My girls do have a choice....
A choice to not feel bad about choosing to pour their lives into raising people. A choice to say “no” to what almost everyone around them tells them they should do. A choice to be home-builders, upon which a healthy society is made. A choice to stand with their husbands and create a shelter for him from the battering of the world. A choice to be everything to a few people and, clothed in strength and dignity, to have some left over to care for the needs of others around her."

You can read the entire post *here*.

In fact, one of the commenters on the post, Cindy, had a great word to add too, I thought - 
"I think a lot of young women (and older ones, too) think of their success in terms of visibility–what the public can see us doing, what we can get financial and personal standing from–rather than being able to accept that our work’s success can only be judged by those few people who know us. Motherhood and wifehood–womanhood, in fact–is a private thing, but we’ve all been raised to think of ourselves as public property.
If we’re not doing for the collective, we’re not thought to be doing anything at all. But a life outside the home is not the only thing worth striving for. In fact, a family’s life without a warm home as a center–with someone there to KEEP the center warm–is pretty barren."


  1. I really like the line "...and create a shelter for him from the battering of the world."

    I am so thankful I get to be home. He is out battling for me, in the cold and rain day after day, not to mention facing the evils of this age. I love to create a warm meal, and have a peaceful and cozy retreat for him.

    Not withstanding my remaining corruption ;-)

  2. This is great!
    Yes, visibility- I think this is one of the harder things about staying at home. We can't quantify what we do, and OH how I like to quantify! I like A+s and DEGREES and things completed! But what we do here in the home , it's really just too BIG to quanitfy (by the grace of God!)

  3. Creating a shelter from the battering world. Reminds me of the Kate's speech at the end of Taming of the Shrew. We get the privilege. Thank you for the great link.